Hi Anne and Digby,
Here is a rundown of my time in Tansen and some of my thoughts. I hope it helps. You also should have some attached photos on my previous email which you can use as you wish.
When arriving to Tansen on a bus the first things that struck me was there was not a tourist in sight at the busy bus station and no one approaching me for a taxi. The way to my home stay was through the town on very steep streets which sure gave me a workout with my backpack on my back for good measure. Some town folk were quite curious and would stare in my direction and then smile. A group of kids on one of these steep streets came to say hello and when one received an elbow touch then everyone wanted one. It felt as though I was the Easter Bunny at Easter.
Luckily I had a Nepali Family Inc brochure with me that had a picture of Silom House, a house for children who are orphaned or had a challenging start to their lives. The owner of the home stay where I stayed (Man Mohan) said he knew of this House and he agreed to take me there. I am very glad that he did as to go anywhere on Tansen roads means a lot of very winding roads and quite a bit of time going from A to B as the landscape is very undulating. Man Mohan took me on many trails here and there and on the way he stopped in to drink some tea with a local. After close to 1 and 1/2 hours we arrived at Silom House.
As I approached Silom House I was warmly greeted by Arjun who is an adopted son of Anne and Digby's. He gave me a tour of the building including the children's rooms, kitchen, dining room, recreation room etc. Many of the children were away at exams when I first arrived however some remained and were very keen to speak in as much English as they could. Many spoke of their aspirations of being a nurse, engineer, teacher etc.
One young man (I believe his name is Niraj) aged around 15 years old spoke very confidently and proudly of his achievements in Tai Kwon Do, soccer and study. Niraj showed me his Tai Kwon Do certificates and talked about how enjoys competitive soccer and that he wants to make something of himself in his life.
There were two people with disabilities at this house that I met. One named Deena appears to be mainly non verbal, however as time went on some words did come out. Deena is certainly a keen dancer and along with her dancing she would like to clap her hands and make happy noises. It was noticeable that some of the teenage girls at the house would assist Deena and others that needed help. Kind of like a group of very caring sisters helping their her younger siblings.
After some time at Silom House I went to the Disability House. This mainly houses people with a vision impairment, some totally blind and others with very limited sight. The living quarters there were similar to Silom House where three to five people would generally share a room. I met people in just about every room in the men's section, so in essence quite a number of people. I then tried to put myself in their situation of living with so many others in a room and having limited or no vision and how challenging this would be. However upon speaking with so many people I was so impressed with everybody's incredibly positive attitude.
Everyone I met stood up when meeting me and confidently said their full name. When speaking they all talked about their studies and how they wanted to hold down jobs and make a good life for themselves. I asked them about interests and the number one sport is definitely cricket. I was told about blind cricket which is played with a ball that makes a noise when it is being delivered as the ball contains ball bearings. The batsman hearing the noise of the ball can identify it's location and hit the ball. I would really like to see a game of blind cricket, it was obvious to me that being able to play this game really meant a lot to these people. Upstairs people were knitting and making various articles of clothing very diligently.
The feeling I got after meeting these people was there is so much they can achieve. Study at university and the like. Employment. Many have formed relationships and some are already parents. Playing sport, being creative and making clothes and art. The other redeeming thought I had was no one complained at all. In fact everyone was so grateful with what they had and there was a level of determination that was easy to recognise in the way people spoke and their body language.
I was then taken back to Silom House where the students were arriving back from school. Popcorn was cooking and everyone got a serving that went down well. After popcorn I played table tennis with many enthusiastic children. It then quickly became study time and even the cheeky children knuckled down to books and began to study. It became apparent to me that these children don't just talk about wanting to do well in life, they are prepared to study and work hard to do it. After my visits I was taken back to my home stay by Arjun on his trusty motor bike on the very steep and winding roads.
I have an understanding of people with disabilities having worked in the disability sector in Australia for 6 years and my late brother had autism and was non verbal. To say I was impressed with Silom House and the Disability House would be an understatement. I cannot recall meeting such a large group of inspiring people. It makes me think that perhaps I am not grateful for what I have. I and all of us in Australia have so many more possessions and more money then these people in Tansen. But these people have big smiles, positivity, determination, are so grateful for what they have (which is very little) and I never heard anyone complain, never ever. I think there is a lot to learn from these people.
I hope to visit Tansen again in the future. I think any support and funding these people receive would not be wasted at all. Sometimes when Governments have problems they tend to throw money at the problem and hope it goes away. People are not always on board with Government agendas and it's successes are limited. In this case everyone I met is benefiting in so many ways such as:
A safe place to live
Structure to their day including study, meals, sports, social and sleep
Building relationships, learning to live and work with others
A positive environment where people are encouraged to achieve their goals
So in this case everyone wants to live in a better environment, they all want to do well in life. Everyone is on board and is so grateful for any assistance they can get.
The only impediment to people in Tansen achieving what they want to achieve is the lack of money people have. People from the many disadvantaged families just cannot afford the basics of education, food, decent living arrangements etc that we in Australia take for granted.
Happy to help
HA 8 Apr 2020
Well, we came to our senses and have deferred and delayed our visit to Nepal until the airline and border situations are resolved over COVID 19. We realise that “If you are not part of the solution, you are part of the problem”. Everyone, even those in Nepal, seem to agree that this was a sensible decision. We will go as soon as it seems like a positive thing to do.
Meanwhile we are very encouraged by the charity registration of the Nepal-based not-for-profit organization, “Mauka Nepal“ ('mauka means opportunity) which will now be our key local partner. It is led by four Nepalis who have been supported in the past by Nepali Family. We continue to work online and by phone with Mauka Nepal to make sure we are all on the same page, and they are ready and able to see that all the children are supported, especially as it is now the new school year in Nepal.
We are transferring support funds as required and hope all our friends will continue to help us to fund all the school and college students at this time and help to initiate the new Skills Training Centre as a key service. The main aim of the Centre is to provide skills that will enable poor young people, (especially girls who are liable to be deserted), to support themselves and their children. Most jobs in Nepal are done inside families and the destitute find most difficulty in getting paid work. With marketable skills they can make a living.
We intend to continue to provide support to the blind and disabled of Creative Disable Self Help Center and to encourage the new group in Chhahara to head towards self-sufficiency over time.
Thank you for your continued support enabling us to do this work for the children of Nepal.
Anne and Digby Hoyal
STOP PRESS. Aidan Adcock, careworker for ARC Disability Services in Cairns, said of his visit on the 13th March 2020 to Silom Childrens House
“Had a terrific day in Tansen today. Your adopted son, Arjun, welcomed me at Silom House and also took me to the disability house. A great pleasure to meet such amazing and inspiring people. A day I won't forget in a hurry.”
Nepali Family will have an information and handmade goods stall at the Yungaburra Christmas Market on Sunday 15th December 2019. If you are crafty and would like to donate some Christmas-themed handicraft for our stall, or have time to help on the day, please contact us.
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"It hits you hard when you see a man crying openly in pain and desperation because he has a problem you don’t have the resources to fix."
"It makes your heart bleed to see a small child, only 5 years old, covered with burns over 40% of her body, especially when she cries in such fear and anticipation when she sees the doctor approaching. It renders you speechless when you see women quivering in hospital beds with devastating sari burns over the back of their legs."
"Or consider so many of the young men, women, and children wasting away because they simply can’t get enough food to eat at home. I mourn for the sufferings of these people, and it hurts to see them in such pain."
"Sometimes, there is no way out for them. In some cases, people are simply sent home to be with their families before they die because nothing more can be done for them.
See this recent article in the Courier Mail outlining some of the work of Nepal Family Inc - Anne and Digby Hoyal help children needing care after Nepal Earthquake (22nd April 2016)Read more